Therapy Did Not Help My Marriage - Now What?

As both a Couples Therapist and Domestic Mediator, I've encountered countless couples who have found themselves at a crossroads in their relationship: Should we divorce, or should we continue to work on our marriage? It's common for clients to feel disillusioned when traditional therapy doesn't deliver the results they expected. However, it's important to understand that unsuccessful therapy doesn't mean the marriage itself is a failure.

There are myriad reasons why therapy may not have brought a couple closer together. Perhaps they weren't fully prepared to commit to the work therapy entails, or maybe the therapeutic model didn't resonate with them. Sometimes, the therapist-client fit simply isn't optimal. And for some, they may not have given therapy the time it truly needed to make meaningful progress.

For those unsure if divorce is the next best step, I often recommend Couples Mediation. This Solution-Focused approach prioritizes the "here and now," tackling immediate issues and devising actionable steps forward. Couples who have already invested time in therapy find this approach particularly appealing, as it offers a fresh perspective to resolve lingering disputes.

What's remarkable is that many couples who find success with mediation often discover they're better equipped to return to therapy for ongoing support and deeper healing.

In essence, failed therapy doesn't spell doom for a marriage. It's simply an indication that a different approach might be needed. Whether it's through mediation, therapy, or a combination of both, there are avenues to explore before making the decision to part ways. After all, every marriage deserves the opportunity for growth and resolution.

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